miss_triathlete's Datingish

Yellow Fever

Thu, 29 Jan 2009 18:12:29 GMT

I never thought I would be infected with yellow fever. First of all, the minorities in my high school consisted of a black guy (that's right, one), two Koreans (they were sisters) and two aboriginal girls who never talked to anyone and I had some extreme culture shock when I started university in a primarily Asian school; but I never imagined myself dating an Asian.

Three years later, I've been with my Chinese boyfriend for over a year and I'm thinking of learning Cantonese so my future children will learn their great-grandparents' language. I never thought of him as Asian or Chinese or anything other than a great guy until someone was talking about interracial relationships and I thought "Oh, I guess I'm part of an interracial couple..." The thing is, it seems very unusual for a white girl to be dating an Asian guy and most cases of yellow fever involve an Asian girl and a white guy. I've even gotten props from (Asian) guys just for dating an Asian and it seems really weird to me that there is such a stereotype about white-Asian relationships.

Are there any other girls in non-typical relationships who have similar experiences?

Qualities of my Ideal Guy

Sat, 17 Jan 2009 02:36:42 GMT

Including my most recent boyfriend, I feel that I've pretty much dated both ends of the spectrum. Boy #1 was very successful, cute, athletic, spoke Spanish and had great grades in engineering at the top school in Canada. Boy #2 was very romantic, thoughtful, loving and did so many little things that just blew my mind. However, these things seem to be mutually exclusive - Boy #1 was also always unavailable, too busy for me, and in the end broke my heart by dumping me after I traveled across the country to visit for a weekend. Boy #2 has been out of school for 2 years, lives at home and shows no inclination to even get a job. Seems weird?
This has led me to believe several things -
1) That I'm not good enough for a guy like Boy #1.
2) That (I hate to say losers) are nicer boyfriends.
Am I completely out to lunch? Can I find a guy who has the whole package?

Another day...another emotion

Fri, 16 Jan 2009 01:18:03 GMT

I really appreciate all the input I've gotten from the datingish community on my guest blog http://www.datingish.com/datingish/689490467/i-dumped-him-but-i-think-i-made-a-mistake/. I'm not really sure where I stand now, but I know I shouldn't make any big decisions right now since I have an obvious bias towards the security of a relationship. I'm going to carry on being single and hope for the best.

So where do I go from here?

Mon, 12 Jan 2009 16:46:43 GMT

I'm a little confused at the moment - less confused than I was, but still kind of confused. My boyfriend and I broke up yesterday after dating for just over a year, and for both of us it was our first somewhat serious relationship. The thing is, I put so much time into seeing him (he lives about an hour away) that now I don't know what to do with my time. My usual schedule was to stay with him on weekends, which usually involved going out with friends, watching movies and TV, and playing computer games. The thing is...that's all gone now and I have way more time to think about him.

It helps that it was a very easy breakup - I broke up with him, but he completely understood why (we have different goals and ambitions that just get in the way) and he said he was anticipating something like that happening soon. We are remaining friends, and I even hung out at his place for a bit after we broke up. The problem is, I feel like I should feel more relief and less pain - after all, it was my idea and I know I wouldn't have been happy with him.